i really should post something meaningful in my blog. but i really don't know what to say. so many thoughts. so many emotions. i just want to bake a cake filled with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat and be happy. i just have a lot of feelings.
i think it may be because of exams, but i feel like everyone is so distant. i haven't seen my closest friends in quite the while. and it's probably just me, because i've said some pretty harsh things in the recent past. is it too blunt to speak the truth.. or at least what's on my mind? isn't that what a close relationship is about? to be able to be honest without being afraid to offend the other person? or should we be cautious in everything we say?
i really do value my relationships very highly, and as my brother says, i'm really quite clingy. i guess i do have high expectations from people, and so when others don't live up to them.. i get disappointed. i feel pathetic though, cause i know that i've failed others countless times in the past. but i still try my best. and i guess, thats all i can expect from them.
saying that, you should still reply my smss. don't be such a cheapass :P
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in other news, i wish i was friends with wongfu. they're absolutely aweheaps. they brighten up my day.
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cheer up, emo kid..
actually that's not a very helpful statement, so..
haven't seen your friends in quite a while? how long is a while? i haven't actually spent proper quality time with my close friend for like, 4 months now because of distance, availability, etc. :(
but yeah, don't analyze your relationship too much. and make mountains out of molehills. it probably is just the exams and your friend might not feel the same.
well, always be quick to praise, but slow to criticize. honesty is the best policy, but did you tell the truth to feel better or did you have your friend's best interest at heart?
sometimes we have to ask ourselves, do we know what's best for others?
truth has to be handled really delicately (cuz it hurts xP) and at the right moment.
expressing how the issue has affected you (i feel sad that you're not using your brain to full potential) instead of accusing the person (you're an idiot) might help. the pen/tongue is mightier than the sword!
and if you've tried your best and your friend still gets angry, you just have to wait, not give up, and hope they'll see you only had pure intentions.
clingy-ness. high expectations. ah, sounds familiar to me. i'm still learning too. God has set eternity into the hearts of man. so, i suppose we are like that because we expect relationships to last forever. but they don't in this life. only the next. so try to get them all there!
friends come and go(so don't cling, but enjoy the moment), and disappoint, so it's better to put all your hope in God than man.
(fooh! sorry for the lengthy post peppered with cliché sayings, i couldn't resist xP)
-drho
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17 June 2008 at 6:55 pm
"is it too blunt to speak the truth.. or at least what's on my mind? isn't that what a close relationship is about? to be able to be honest without being afraid to offend the other person? or should we be cautious in everything we say?"
Speaking the truth is a good thing to do, but 'let your words be seasoned with salt.' (somewhere in Ephesians...can't be bothered looking it up lol) And, it also depends on how 'close' your friendship is with that person and how well you know them. Sometimes people are rather sensitive and can be offended easily, and if you don't know whether a friend can take the criticism, don't say it at all or wait till a suitable timing. Blunt words often create hurts that last for years.
Often, it is best not to talk at all. "He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life, but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction." (prov. 13:3) "In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin, but he that refraineth his lips is wise." (prov. 10:19)
And above all, be wise in your words. Choose every word wisely for edifying.
Lol I'm sure you know all this but I just felt like posting...:P hope it helped a bit lol
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Maria, at
17 June 2008 at 8:23 pm